He responded with a slew of insults that were so wonderfully illogical as insults that I just have to paraphrase: ‘You’re just a farm-nerd wannabe hipster, who reads books and thinks she’s so smart, but is really just a moron who lives in the country with horses and can’t even live in Brunswick, even though she so desperately wants to be sipping café lattes in the city and talking about books and shit.’ That’s actually pretty accurate.
He then proceeded to try to get me to meet up with him for sex. ‘Why do you even want to have sex with me, if I’m a lame hipster wannabe? I have the required equipment for his sexual preference. I’ve been noticing this kind of attitude more and more, amongst men and women. With social media making everything so accessible, it seems that delayed gratification is a thing of the past.
What happens if you organise to meet for sex, but there’s zero chemistry when the time comes? According to Make Love Not Porn founder Cindy Gallop, ‘Porn isn’t dirty sex, porn is sex sanitised.’ It is edited to distort reality.
How can we consent enthusiastically prior to seeing the other person? That wonderful place of freedom and respect and mutual non-commitment? Recently, I’ve been feeling as if my favourite place is being drawn too far one way, so that I have to choose between these two extremes, neither of which really suit me. It shows smooth, hairless bodies – especially women’s – unrealistic positions, women groaning in supposed ecstasy after a few seconds of demented thrusting.
After a few chats, I realised I felt no connection to him, and during one of the calls I told him that I wasn’t interested in dating him.Do you find that the type of porn or how much you watch is a problem for you?For people experiencing what's becoming called 'porn escalation', they experience it as a form of porn addiction.Pierce’s insights are substantiated, spot-on and invaluable to any parent, teacher or coach trying to navigate this new terrain.” — Parent of three teenagers As surprising as it may be to parents, young people today are immersed in porn culture everywhere they look.Through Internet porn, gaming, social media, and advertising, kids today have a much broader view of social and sexual possibilities, which makes it difficult for them to establish appropriate expectations or to feel adequate in their own sexuality.